Friday, May 7, 2010

I need to carve out more time!!!

Seems there's always something to take up my time and minimize the time I get to write and work on writing related projects.

There's the house and chores and dinner preparation, laundry, food shopping. There's always something we're prepping for: we have a costume party this weekend and I need to shop for supplies and make our costumes.

And then there's the kids. Every parent knows that the kids always need you the second you sit to do something for yourself. If my son didn't take a good nap every afternoon, I would not be sitting here typing this right now!

I hate to sound like I'm complaining, I'm really not. I know how lucky I am to get what I get. But I so badly want to make this career a success and I need to somehow find more time to give to it. But how do I do that without feeling guilty?? The most logical is after dinner. Hubby is here and able to take over parental duties 100%. I keep telling myself that if I worked a job out of the home, that is when I'd have to do it. But that is the only time we have as a family and that time is precious to me. The kids are only this age once. who knows how much longer we'll have before they won't want to play with us anymore.

I've tried the get up early thing...does not work for me. I am so not a morning person. I am better at night, but editing seriously makes me so sleepy!! I can usually write new stuff at night, but not edit.

Thanks for listening...I know there's tons of you out there who can relate!


  1. I could have written this post. I go through the same exact thing, except my son doesn't nap anymore. I've been writing whenever I can. I really miss the days of being able to write for hours, before kids. Sometimes I take him to the library so he can play, and I bring my notebook to write. I completely understand about family time. But even if you can get away for 20 minutes, it can be worth it. I always feel guilty if I'm not with my son, but 20-30 minutes isn't going to stop the world. I know, for me, if I don't squeeze in even a teeny bit of writing, I get grouchy. :)

  2. Ugg. All I can say is -- things won't get easier, chica. Soon you'll have to promote too. I so miss the days when I was stay-at-home mom and could write. Now on top of all the other goodies, I have a job besides, plus promoting. Forget about writing taking a back seat -- it's hanging by the hoodie drawstring in the trunklatch!

  3. LOL Piper!! I hear ya!!

    I'm hoping things will be much easier once my son is in school full time (only 3 years to go!) In the meantime, I will carve out as much time as I can!!

  4. I can definitely relate! I'm working on my flute career at the same time, trying to keep that going because it pays the bills. There are some days where I can't write at all and I get impatient because I want to finish my WIP!

    Now I keep a pad of paper with me and write when someone cancels their flute lesson, or at a red light while driving! Anytime I can find to jot something down.

  5. I'm SO with you on this one!!! Especially now. (Note that I'm posting this after midnight on a Sunday -- my usual "work" time.) It's the internal fight moms have to battle everyday - and I swear, we never really win. It seems things suffer a little on both ends sometimes, whether its kids or work. I just keep telling myself that I'm doing the best I can for me, and for her, and that's all I can do. The rest I fill in with love and pray its all worthwhile. So keep on burning your candle -- you won't be sorry. Neither will your kids.

  6. Thanks!! :) Sometimes I really hate not being able to give my all to one thing...I feel like everything is only getting 50% of me.