As a romance writer, I adore the happily ever after warm fuzzies I get from reading romance...and writing it too :) I love the struggle to earn that HEA and the elation when they finally get their crap together and make it work! Even when it's a bit far-fetched.
But yes....most times life and romance novels do not mirror each other. Life does not always work out and not everyone gets a tidy HEA. (Though I do believe if you want a happy life, you need to go out there and make it happen! But that's a post for another day!) And I know there are a lot of people out there who scoff at the romance genre because it's not really always like real life. I've seen my fellow authors get completely slammed on Goodreads and Amazon because there was too much suspension of disbelief. Well.....it's romance....what did they really expect? It's an escapist genre.
I read romance for an escape from real life. I want to be swept away and I don't care one bit that it might not ever be able to happen like that for real for anyone. I like the fantasy. And just like readers who love to dive into paranormals, sci fi, and fantasy and any other form of fiction that can't happen in the world as we know it, I love being taken somewhere other than real life.
My new book, Try Me On for Size, definitely takes some suspension of disbelief. It's a far-fetched plot, and I was totally aware of that when I wrote it. But it's fun as hell, and sassy and if you know me and my other books, you know it fits right in with my style. But I'm worried about getting slammed in reviews. Will people hate it because it probably wouldn't happen in real life? Most likely. But I hope there are many many more who love it and get it and enjoy the wacky ride I take them on. That's all any author of escapist fiction can ask for.